Wednesday, March 28, 2007

Faith is Enough to Overcome Any Challenge

You're bound to confront unexpected challenges that strike you with
the fear of the unknown. It's at times like these that you'll have to
choose whether or not to follow where God leads you – even when you
don't understand what's happening. But no challenge is insurmountable.
Faith is truly enough to overcome even the toughest challenge.

Here's how you can use the faith God gives you to overcome any
challenge you'll ever face:

* Live by the Spirit. Don't rely on your own limited strength.
Instead, plug into God's unlimited strength by asking the Holy Spirit
to guide and empower you. Trust that He will help you obey God's
leading in all situations.

* Believe even when you don't see answers to your prayers. Remember
that God is always at work, but sometimes He's working behind the
scenes until the right time to reveal His answers to your prayers.
Believe in who Jesus really is and in what He has done for you. Recall
God's promises from Scripture. Ask God to give you the confidence to
continue to listen to God's guidance and act on it.

* Be courageous. Understand that faith in the known is greater than
fear of the unknown. Pray for the courage you need to follow uncharted
paths. Expect that there may be a time of testing between the time you
act in obedience and the time you receive what God has promised.

* Be patient. Know that your faith must sometimes be tried to produce
patience in you and help you mature. Don't lose your vision simply for
a lack of patience. Trust God as you wait. Remember that God is never
late.

* Build unity with other believers. Recognize that faith is effective
when there is unity. Understand that agreement on Earth releases
provision from heaven. Do your best to work with others to find a
place together in God's will, so that God's will supercedes your
individual wills. Then agree to do God's will together.

* Realize that true faith originates from God – not just good
intentions. Don't take claims based simply in good-intentioned emotion
seriously. Know that when sincere or zealous statements of faith have
no divine origin, they don't bear witness to the truth, and they don't
bring real comfort. Understand that it's much better to face reality –
no matter how hard that may be – and speak the truth in love than to
speak without God's leading and just tell someone what he or she wants
to hear.

* Don't worry about provision. Be assured that God will not only meet
your needs, but He'll do so abundantly. Pray specifically about
whatever practical needs you have, and trust God to respond.

* Don't substitute sacrifice for obedience. Realize that your greatest
sacrifice to God is not enough to justify disobedience.

* Stay focused. Expect your faith to waver if you allow other concerns
to distract you from God's guidance. Focus on your God-given goals
instead of the past, and on God's promises rather than your
circumstances. Invite God to remind you of how much He loves you, and
let that motivate you to stay steadfastly focused on what He wants for
you.

* Let fear jumpstart your faith. Whenever you experience something
that troubles you, realize that God may intend that experience to be a
roadblock to help you change direction in your life. Turn to God with
all your heart when He's trying to get your attention, and ask Him to
direct your steps.

* Know that faith makes it possible to be secure anywhere. Understand
that anyplace is secure with Jesus, but no place is safe without Him.
Realize that God's provision isn't dependent on your own resources,
that His ways aren't subject to your approval, and that His timing is
often different from yours. Recognize that your security lies in
trusting God. Know that, no matter what, your faith can stand when
it's based on God's promises instead of your own understanding.

* Stand firm when you encounter evil. Know that faith born in the
light may be tested in darkness as you go through attacks from evil.
Be strong, pray, and keep believing when darkness temporarily hides
victory from view.

* Remember that faith without love is worth nothing. Realize that any
attempt to follow Jesus' example of ministry will be ineffective
unless you also follow His example of love. Don't let any of your
sacrifices or service for God be in vain. First, get your motivation
right by getting your heart right with God. Then – out of true love
for God and gratitude for His love for you – give to others.

* Let faith give you quiet confidence. Recognize that strength comes
not from power, but from the quiet confidence of an indwelling faith.
Expect that every time you submit your needs to Jesus, you'll
experience the confidence that only He can give you. Rely on that
confidence to do whatever God leads you to do.

* Act in faith when it's not convenient. Whenever you sense God
leading you to do something that doesn't make sense in your current
circumstances, be willing to follow His leading despite that. Remember
that it's rarely convenient to walk by faith, and that God may
challenge your faith when He wants to encourage you to grow. Choose to
hold God's call in higher regard than the circumstances surrounding
you.

* Let faith build understanding in your relationships with others.
Know that you can share a bond with other people through faith, which
will transcend all your differences and unify you like nothing else.
As you interact with others, take the time to truly get to know them,
and let God's love flow through you into their lives.

* Fight so that the enemy doesn't steal your faith. Be alert to ways
Satan is trying to discourage you and tempt you to turn away from God.
Stay connected to God through frequent prayer, and build relationships
with other believers who will regularly encourage you. Remember that
good is more powerful than evil.

* Don't give up under pressure. Be assured that God will give you
faith sufficient for whatever you need you'll face. Never give up in
the midst of tough circumstances; just pray for the faith to handle
them well.

* Let your faith help you solve problems. Look beyond your problems to
the God who will give you solutions. Pray for creative ideas to solve
whatever problems you're dealing with, and apply the wisdom you
receive.

* Remember God's promises. Understand that, while you may be
unfaithful to God, God will always be faithful to you. Read God's
promises in the Bible and know that you can count on Him. Persevere in
tough circumstances, trusting that God will deliver on His promises to
you.

* Recognize that faith works by love. Realize that the power behind
faith is love. Let love inspire you to reach beyond your own
inadequate abilities and resources and into the realm of God's help.
Be willing to try whatever God wants you to try, trusting that He'll
help you along the way. Remember that nothing is impossible with God.
Expect that you may even experience a miracle as God's love flows
through you.

* Know that faith is never in vain. Don't judge your faith by the
apparent failure or success of your work. Remember that faith is not
based on what you can see. When you don't see the results you'd hoped
for when you prayed about something, remember that God still has in
answer. When your current circumstances don't indicate anything to
assure you that God is working, wait for the right time and know that
God will reward your faith.

* Understand that faith is not limited by time or space. Realize that
God is always near even when He seems distant. Whenever you feel
overwhelmed, be assured that God sees you and cares. Know that someone
is always interceding for you in prayer – either Jesus in heaven, or
another person who cares about you. Recognize that prayers from
another dimension (heaven) or another location (even across the globe)
are just as powerful as those uttered by someone in the same room with
you.

* Expect God to reward your faith. Know that God will never send you
out to accomplish something without generously providing everything
you need in order to do it. Understand that God will sometimes
surprise you with extra blessings when He sees you respond faithfully
to His guidance.

* Recognize that God calls young people to be just as faithful as
older ones. If you're young, don't let your age be an excuse or a
hindrance from living out your faith. Remember that maturity isn't the
same as chronological age. Respond to God's challenge to live a life
of integrity that pleases Him and represents Him well to others. If
you're older, do all you can to encourage youth to live out their
faith.

* Remember that faith is worthwhile. Be patient during times when your
faith is tested by hardships. Remember that the effort you must make
to follow God's leading is always worth it.

* Let faith motivate you to give. Remember how much God has given to
you, and let your gratitude for His generosity motivate you to give to
other people. Know that God sees when you give with pure motives, and
will reward you in heaven for doing so.

* Don't trade your faith for comfort. Know that you'll regret any time
you back away from something God wants you to do, just because it
makes you feel uncomfortable. Instead of focusing on temporary,
earthly rewards, focus on the eternal rewards that God will give you
if you're faithful to follow where He leads.

* Don't sacrifice obedience on the altar of common sense. Understand
that faith's security lies in obedience. Rather than basing your
decisions on circumstances you can see, seek wisdom from God, who has
the benefit of a complete perspective on every situation. Rely on
God's guidance instead of your own limited understanding.

* Bolster your faith with daily guidance from God. Don't neglect
regular prayer time during which you seek divine direction. Know that
God always has something to say to you; make time to listen to Him.

* Let your faith transform your weakness into strength. Read, study,
and meditate on God's Word, the Bible, often. Realize that the
substance of faith is inherent in God's Word. Expect that when you
receive His Word in faith, you'll also receive the strength you need
to live it out.

* Realize that you can't reach a positive goal by taking negative
steps. Understand that faith can either be strengthened or defeated by
your actions. Decide to trust God, even when you don't understand or
like what He's doing in your life. Don't give in to wrong feelings and
act outside of God's will. Ask God to help you stay positive.

* Know that your faith will affect future generations. Remember that
the greatest gift you can give your children, grandchildren, and the
others that come after them is a heritage of faith. Hold onto your
confidence in God, realizing that doing so will benefit not only you,
but others who will be inspired by your example.

* Remember that faith is the substance and evidence of the unseen.
Know that faith points to the One who gives it: God. Remembering that
your faith is a gift from God, decide to use it to serve God as your
gift back to Him. Make good use of the faith God has invested in you,
and trust that as you apply this intangible resource, you'll see
tangible blessings as a result.

* Realize that God can multiply a single act of faithful giving.
Expect that, when you lovingly give even a small gift to help someone
in need, God will use it in ways that go beyond what you can imagine.
Be willing to let your possessions go when God asks for them, knowing
that the little gifts you give may become great.

* Let the knowledge that God truly sees and cares about you strengthen
your faith. Realize that, through your relationship with God, you are
truly known and truly loved. Let His deep personal love for you
increase your hope for the future and bolster your faith.

* Be active, not passive. Don't squander your time and energy on
activities that don't relate to God's purposes for your life. Don't be
idle and then pity yourself when others receive opportunities you
would like. Ask God to give you the self-discipline you need to grow
in your faith and serve diligently.

* Link your faith together with other believers' faith. Build
meaningful relationships with other believers. Participate in and
contribute to a healthy church. Know that when believers are linked
together in active faith, they form a chain of deliverance. Be
obedient enough to give to others in need, and humble enough to
receive from others for your own needs.

* Remember that faith is founded on, and maintained by, an intimate
relationship with God. Recognize that faith isn't measured by anything
else but the quality of your relationship with God. Make building a
close relationship with God your top priority in life, and know that
God will respond by giving you more and more faith.

Adapted from When Faith is Enough: A Safari of Destiny that Reveals
Principles to Live By, copyright 2006 by Fern C. Willner. Published by
Believe Books, Washington, D.C.,
www.believebooks.com.
Fern C. Willner graduated from both Evangel University in Springfield,
Missouri and Zion Bible Institute in East Providence, Rhode Island. At
Zion she met her future husband, Rev. Charles Willner, with whom she
went on to share a life of adventure and ministry along with their
seven children. Fern went to be with the Lord in 2002. This book seeks
to keep her vibrant testimony alive.

With Love, From Your Younger Self

by Amy Carroll

2 Corinthians 12:9, "But he said to me, 'My grace is sufficient for
you, for my power is made perfect in weakness…'" (NIV)

Devotion:

I've been joking around about it for more than a year, but now I'm
thinking that I really might do it. I have been saying that I'm going
to start a journal for myself to read when I'm 70--you know, thoughts
from my younger self to my older self. Some of my current thoughts I'm
sure will be laughable to my 70-year-old self. My inexperience will
show, and my spiritual walk will seem immature.

My friend Ruth presented me with my best journal entry yet. Ruth's
closest friend, her husband Sam, died over a year ago in October. When
our families gathered for our annual Christmas get-together last year,
I asked Ruth how she was really doing without Sam. She told me that
she missed Sam terribly, of course. Then she followed with a quote
from her sister that had been widowed early in life. "Amy, I have
stood in front of my Sunday school class and taught the sufficiency of
God for 30 years. If I can't live that out now, what does it really
mean?"

God has been teaching me a lot about His complete sufficiency, and I
think it will be a key to growing in godliness until the end of my
life. Here are some areas in which He's teaching me.

1. The Sufficiency of His Word???For many years, I approached the
Bible with some fear. Surely this was a book that took an expert to
understand. I felt I needed an author or a scholar to tell me what
God's Word said and meant. He has been teaching me that with the help
of the Holy Spirit, I have everything I need in His Word. I'm now a
slow but determined student!

2. The Sufficiency of His Counsel???The prophecies of Jesus includes
this one from Isaiah 9:6, "…And he will be called Wonderful Counselor,
Mighty God, Everlasting Father, Prince of Peace." (NIV) Jesus then
taught us in the gospel of John about the Holy Spirit: John 14:26,
"But the Counselor, the Holy Spirit, whom the Father will send in my
name, will teach you all things and will remind you of everything I
have said to you" (NIV). I have Jesus and His indwelling Spirit to
counsel me about everything I need concerning life and godliness. He
is sufficient to give my life purpose and direction.

3. The Sufficiency of His Comfort???We live in a fallen world, and
sometimes I want to groan along with it. God's grace and power is
sufficient in our weak places, though. He even promises to use our
weakness, our suffering and our pain for our good. Many times He may
be calling us to join Him as instruments of comfort. Consider II
Corinthians 1:3-4, "Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus
Christ, the Father of compassion and the God of all comfort, who
comforts us in all our troubles, so that we can comfort those in any
trouble with the comfort we ourselves have received from God" (NIV).


These are just a few areas that God is showing me His sufficiency. I'm
sure you could add some of your own. I'm just praying that as I grow
into an older woman that I am continually growing into God's
sufficiency and out of my own. Someday I want to look at a younger
friend and answer her question with a quote from my friend Ruth, "I
have stood in front of my Sunday school class and taught the
sufficiency of God for 30 years…."

Dear Lord, so often I live in my own sufficiency. I want to learn
about Your sufficiency and how to live in it. Help Your name to be so
associated with my name that I would bring glory to You in everything
I do. In Jesus' Name, Amen.

Application Steps:

Start a journal for your older self. Record the sayings and actions of
older and wiser people.

Begin living now the way you want to be when you are older. Curbing
our tongues is one way to show that we believe in God's sufficiency!

Reflections:

Who can I observe as role models for growing older and more like Jesus
every day?

What are some of the flaws that I want to eliminate and/or avoid as I
grow older? (Ask God for His sufficient power in this area.)

Power Verses:

Psalm 119: 111-112, "Your statutes are my heritage forever; they are
the joy of my heart. My heart is set on keeping your decrees to the
very end." (NIV)

Psalm 1:1-2, "Blessed is the man who does not walk in the counsel of
the wicked or stand in the way of sinners or sit in the seat of
mockers. But his delight is in the law of the Lord, and on his law he
meditates day and night." (NIV)

I Thessalonians 5: 23- 24, "May God himself, the God of peace,
sanctify you through and through. May your whole spirit, soul and body
be kept blameless at the coming of our Lord Jesus Christ. The one who
calls you is faithful and he will do it." (NIV)

Answer the Most Common Objections to Christianity

The following is a report on the practical applications of Alex
McFarland's new book, The 10 Most Common Objections to Christianity,
(Regal Books, 2007).

People in today's society have many questions about faith, and every
question deserves an honest answer. If you've taken the time to think
through exactly what you believe and why you believe it, you'll be
prepared to give people the answers they need to genuinely seek – and
find – Christ.

Here's how you can answer the most common objections to Christianity:

* Make your responses theological, reasonable, and practical. Ask
yourself: "Does what I have to say square up with the Bible?", "Does
what I say make sense?", "Is it credible and factually correct?", "Am
I giving people truth that is relevant to life?" and "Have I
successfully bridged the gap from the 'ivory towers of academia' to
the 'real world' where people live their day-to-day lives?".

* Understand the questions behind the questions. Get to know why
people are asking the questions they're asking in the first place.
Find out what issues are stirring their souls and motivating them to
seek answers.

* Respond to "I don't believe that God exists. How can anybody be
sure?" Recognize that, logically, neither atheism nor agnosticism make
sense. Atheism requires complete knowledge of everything (which no
human has) in order to declare for certain that there is no God.
Agnostics claim that they can't know anything for sure, but it's a
contradiction to say, "One thing I know about God: You can't know
anything about Him." Explain the evidence for God's existence: Every
effect has a cause (Both science and the Bible acknowledge that the
universe had a beginning, and that it couldn't have arrived without a
force behind it), Every creation has a Creator (Nature itself points
toward its Creator and reveals what He is like), Every design has a
Designer (The intricate design all around you – from the patterns the
universe to the uniqueness of a DNA strand – show that they must have
resulted from an intelligent Designer rather than just mindless
happenstance), Communication requires a Communicator (the cells in
people's bodies are filled with complex instructions that were
programmed by Someone intelligent to communicate that information),
and Every law has a Lawgiver (The universal moral law of what's right
and what's wrong transcends cultures, and must have come from an
outside source – the One who gave all humans a conscience. Not only
that, but people's universal inability to keep the moral code
perfectly reveals that all humans need forgiveness from a Savior).
Understand that God must be personal, as well, because He created
people to be personal (with wills, emotions, personalities, volitions,
and ambitions), and He Himself must be at least as sophisticated as
who He has created. Realize also that God reveals Himself to the world
so He can be sought. Know that He wants people to seek Him, and
promises that if they do, they'll find Him.

* Respond to "But what about evolution? Couldn't God have created us
but used evolution to do it?" Acknowledge that species have indeed
changed over time to survive, but that the theory of evolution
mistakenly claims that those adaptations can actually result in the
creation of new species. It also inaccurately claims that life itself
could have randomly evolved from non-living material. Understand that
the mathematical probability of life originating at random is so
miniscule as to render that concept absurd. Know that the process of
evolution (new, additional genetic information occurring in living
forms or new life by genetic mutation) has never been observed in all
of recorded history. Realize that the earth's fossil record reveals
that every living form has appeared suddenly and completely developed
– not through gradual transition, as the evolution theory would
suggest. Understand that current research in molecular biology has
revealed what evolution's original theorist, Charles Darwin, didn't
know: Proteins and nucleic acids are too structurally complex to have
arisen spontaneously in the same place at the same time, and all the
amino acids in DNA are of the same molecular orientation and couldn't
have begun by chance, so life could not have originated solely by
chemical means. Acknowledge that it's irrational to believe that
something can come from nothing, that chaos birthed order, and that
lifeless matter produced consciousness. Remember that, while
evolutionists claim that biological life arose accidentally, people
don't see information arising accidentally anywhere in the physical
world. Realize that accepting the theory of evolution requires faith,
just as believing in creationism does, because no human alive today
can travel back in time to observe what happened when the universe
began. Acknowledge that creationism is just as scientific as
evolution, because each seeks to explain within its framework all the
real known data of science and history. Know that, while the Bible
leaves the time frame meant by "day" in the creation account
unspecified, the point isn't how much time the process took. Recognize
that the Bible is very clear about what matters most – Who is
responsible for creation (God).

* Respond to "How do I know the Bible is really true?" Realize that
many more ancient copies and portions of the Bible have been found
than those of any other ancient manuscript. Know that each of those
biblical writings have been accepted as authentic by historians.
Recognize that many of the biblical accounts were recorded just a
short time after they took place, in contrast to the huge time gap of
centuries that existed with most other ancient manuscripts. Understand
that when various biblical manuscripts have been scrutinized against
each other, they've been proven to be consistent. Realize that no
other ancient document can even come close to the New Testament in
terms of number of manuscripts found and the closeness in time to the
original autographs, so questioning the New Testament's credibility
would require tossing out the validity of every other ancient
manuscript ever found. Recognize that the Bible qualifies as the most
reliable, verifiable source ever written. Consider the myriad of
archeological discoveries that verify people, places, and events the
Bible mentions. Also consider the hundreds of biblical prophecies that
have been fulfilled in specific and meticulous ways – often, long
after the prophetic writer had died. Think about the Bible's
historical and scientific accuracy. Ponder how indestructible the
Bible has proven to be, despite many attempts throughout history to
either censor or eradicate it. Realize that the Bible's unique
structure points to its reliability, since it maintains perfect unity
and consistency throughout, despite its 66 different books written by
at least 40 different people from all walks of life over a period of
2,000 years. Consider how profoundly the Bible has impacted world
culture and events – more than any other document in human history.
Think about the Bible's unique power to change people's lives.

* Respond to "What about all the errors in the Bible?" Admit that the
Bible contains complicated passages that can be difficult to
understand. But be assured that a proven error has never been found in
all of Scripture. Remember that, although the New Testament wasn't
officially compiled until the Council of Nicea in 327 A.D., the early
Church already acknowledged the same 27 New Testament books long
before then. Understand that, while early Christians wrestled with
doctrinal differences, they agreed on the core of the faith – the
essential beliefs related to Jesus and the salvation He offers. Know
that what can appear to be variations in biblical narratives are not
contradictions. Realize that, just like modern journalists, the author
of each biblical book mentioned only the details that were most
vividly impressed on their minds or the minds of those who witnessed
the different events. Understand that a partial account doesn't mean a
false account, and that none of the details mentioned in any of the
accounts conflict with details in other accounts. Consider that all of
the biblical authors openly acknowledged that they were writing with
divine inspiration, and if all of them were wrong in those claims,
then they were either lying or insane – neither of which makes sense,
because they wrote the world's most beautiful literature containing
the most perfect moral code ever devised. Think beyond mere
assumptions as you wrestle with the Bible's difficult passages. For
example, rather than assuming that a race of people not descended from
Adam and Eve must have existed for Cain to find a wife, realize that
he could have married one of his sisters, especially since the command
against incest didn't come from Moses until at least 400 years later.
Understand that the Bible is reliable because its specific and
verifiable claims have all been found to be true, eyewitnesses to
biblical events and many other people throughout history have
testified to its credibility, and biblical teachings have profoundly
impacted the world in ways that go far beyond any other book.

* Respond to "What makes Jesus so different from other great men of
history?" Recognize that Jesus stands out above all people because of:
His prophesied coming, His supernatural birth, His miraculous deeds,
His distinctive teaching, and His actions that substantiated His
claims. Understand that the greatest proof of Jesus' uniqueness is His
resurrection, which has been verified extensively, through evidence
such as the testimonies of the empty tomb, the numerous appearances of
Jesus after He was resurrected, the instant and powerful change in the
disciples afterward, and the complete silence of Jewish and Roman
authorities.

* Respond to "Aren't there many roads to heaven? Don't all paths
ultimately lead to the same place?" Understand that all religious
viewpoints can't be true, because they're bound to contradict at some
point. Know that it's logical for opposite roads to lead to different
destinations. Remember that Jesus explicitly stated, "I am the way and
the truth and the life. No one comes to the Father except through Me,"
(John 14:6) and that the Bible is unmistakably clear that there is
only one road to heaven – through the salvation Jesus alone offers.
Recognize the legitimate authority Jesus has to speak on the subject.
Know that popular opinion to the contrary, while politically correct,
is spiritually wrong.

* Respond to "Is hell for real? If so, how can a loving God send
people there?" Don't deny the truth that hell exists. Understand that
hell is necessary because God's just nature demands that sin be
punished. Realize that all people actually deserve hell, but God's
great love compelled Him to offer heaven to everyone who trusts Him.
Know that God gives everyone the freedom to decide what they want for
themselves, and those who end up in hell put themselves there by
rejecting Jesus' offer of salvation and choosing to trust in their own
imperfect efforts (which are bound to fail) instead. Remember God's
promise to allow everyone who truly seeks Him to find Him. Be assured
that no one goes to hell because they can't be reached; they go
because they don't want God.

* Respond to "I don't think I'm a sinner. I'm not so bad." Know that
being "not so bad" or "pretty good" isn't enough to earn your way to
heaven. Understand that you must be perfectly righteous to go to
heaven, and that is only possible by trusting in Jesus' work on the
cross for you. Realize that God doesn't rank sins as people do; to
God, sin is sin, even though one person might be a murderer and
another might be a child who simply lies about brushing her teeth
before bedtime. Remember that, in His holiness, God can't stand any
kind of sin, but a saving relationship with Jesus will make a person
perfectly pure and acceptable to God.

* Respond to "Christians are all hypocrites. Why would I want to
become one of them?" Admit that all Christians, because they're
imperfect humans, sometimes fail to live up to the standard Jesus set.
Understand that Christians don't claim to be perfect – just forgiven –
and that they're all growing into better and better people, thanks to
God's grace. Focus on Jesus Himself and decide to believe in
Christianity, despite the behavior of some Christians, because: God
offers you Christ instead of Christians, Christian truth is not
negated by human failures, all people are hypocrites in reality, and
human failures make the need for Jesus all the more clear.

* Respond to "Why is there evil in the world? What about suffering?"
Understand that, while God allows evil because He has given His
creatures free will, God never causes evil Himself. Recognize that
humanity is to blame for the evil that has corrupted our natural
world. Remember God's promises in Scripture to handle evil in His way
and timing, because He is in ultimate control. Trust in God's love,
power, and wisdom and notice all the ways He constantly uses suffering
to accomplish good purposes in people's lives. Know that the existence
of suffering does not the reality of God. Rely on God's strength to
help you and others deal with suffering well and emerge better people
as a result.

* Help people find the ultimate Answer – Jesus Himself. After you help
explain the answers to people's various questions about Christianity,
encourage them to begin an eternal relationship with Jesus that will
fulfill them more than anything else. Offer to pray with them.

Adapted from The 10 Most Common Objections to Christianity, copyright
2007 by Alex McFarland. Published by Regal Books, Ventura, Ca.,
1-800-4-GOSPEL,
www.regalbooks.com.


Alex McFarland (M.A., Christian Thought/Apologetics, Liberty
University) is a speaker, writer and advocate for Christian
apologetics, as well as the president of Southern Seminary and the
former director of Teen Apologetics at Focus on the Family. An author
and popular speaker at hundreds of locations throughout the United
States and abroad, Alex is also the weekly host for Truth Talk Live
radio program, and the founder of Truth for a New Generation
apologetics conferences. He has also been interviewed by Billy
Graham's Decision radio broadcast, James Dobson on Focus on the
Family, The New York Times, the BBC, Christianity Today and many other
media outlets.

Important Truths for reaching first-time visitors

Key `moments of truth' important for reaching first-time visitors
by Gary L. McIntosh, author ofBeyond the First Visit

To honestly appreciate the new person's experience, you need to set
aside your `insider' understanding about your church and think like
an `outsider.'

I was visiting a church in Indiana. As I walked into the church
lobby, the person who was walking with me commented, "You'll like
our church. It's a very friendly place."

Once inside the building, we were immediately met by a man carrying
an armfull of papers. Introductions were polite and we shook hands.
However, it was what followed that surprised me.

Upon completing our handshake, the man turned to my friend and began
to talk about some church business, which, in truth, should not have
been discussed in my presence.

As they talked, the man moved nervously back and forth on his feet
gradually changing his position so that his back was actually
pointed toward me.

I remember thinking to myself, "Hey! I'm the guest here. Quit
ignoring me!" But I did not say anything to him.

Once he was done discussing his bit of church business, he seemed to
catch a glimpse of me out of the side of his eye. In an embarrassed
and hasty attempt to make me feel welcome, he said, "It was nice to
meet you. You'll like our church. It's a very friendly place."

Encounters of the right kind
When a person talks to a member of your church, or calls on the
telephone, or receives a brochure in the mail, or drives into your
parking lot, or whatever, it is a moment of truth.

A moment of truth is any occasion in which a person comes into
contact with and forms an impression of your church.

The importance of these moments of truth should not be
underestimated.

First, remember that people outside of your church do not go around
thinking about you.

Second, remember that your church only exists in such a person's
mind when he or she makes some type of contact with you, either
directly or indirectly.

Third, remember that the impression formed by such contact is
generalized in an individual's mind to your entire church.

Fourth, the end result of the contact is a feeling – positive or
negative – about your entire church.

What do you think I felt about the church I visited in Indiana?

Think like a guest
To honestly appreciate the new person's experience, you need to set
aside your "insider" understanding about your church and think like
an "outsider."

A good way to do so is to list the key moments of truth that guests
to your church encounter. Then, walk through each one with "guest
eyes" attempting to see each aspect as they would.

There are, of course, many moments of truth. However, newcomers to
every church face the 10 that follow. Think through each one and
describe what happens now and what should happen when a guest
encounters each moment of truth at your church.

1. Driving up to the church building. Is the landscaping around your
church well kept? Is the parking lot nicely paved and clear of
debris? Are the exterior walls and windows of the building
attractive? Are there parking spaces clearly marked for guests?

2. Walking up to the front door. Are there warm and friendly people
greeting guests before they enter the building? Is the entrance
clearly marked? Does the entrance present an inviting look that
says, "Please come in?"

3. Entering the front door. Are the sounds that guests hear upon
entering the building uplifting? Is there a pleasant smell? Does the
decor seem attractive and welcoming? Are the directional signs
easily visible? Are there people available to answer questions and
give assistance?

4. Contacting people. Are church members outgoing and approachable?
Do they express an attitude of acceptance to newcomers? Is there an
honest friendliness without being mushy or overbearing?

5. Experiencing ministries and services. Is the child care area
clean, bright, and open? Are the rest rooms clean and free of
unpleasant odors? Are classrooms nicely decorated?

6. Meeting ushers and entering the sanctuary. Do ushers smile and
express a friendly attitude? Is the atmosphere of the worship area
vibrant and happy? Is there room to sit without being unduly
crowded? Are guests welcomed graciously and treated with respect?

7. Participating in the worship service. Is the order of the worship
service explained and easy for the guest to follow? Are the songs
singable by newcomers? Are the words of the songs available to them?
Do newcomers leave wishing the service had been longer? Do guests
feel at ease and comfortable?

8. Exiting the worship service. Do guests find a friendly atmosphere
upon leaving the worship area? Are they greeted in positive ways by
people around them? Are they invited to a refreshment table to talk
and meet others from the church?

9. Following contacts. Do guests receive a personal contact within
48 hours of their first visit to your church? Are they thanked for
their attendance? Are they invited back? Do you ask for their
evaluation of your church? Do you in some way surprise guests with
an extra measure of service beyond what they expect?

10. Ongoing contacts in the future. Are guests put on your mailing
list for appropriate future contact? Do guests receive a church
newsletter on a regular basis? Do you mail them informational
brochures describing ministries they might find interesting? Do you
call them to extend a personal invitation to special events?

What do guests see, experience, and feel from these moments of truth
in your church? What should they experience? What can your church
begin to do to make these moments of truth positive experiences for
your guests?

Adapted from a new book by Gary L. McIntosh, Ph.D., Beyond the First
Visit released by Baker Books.pastors.com

How to Stop Keeping Score

ministry/personal resource,includes steps for breaking free from
scorekeeping

Written by Drs. Les & Leslie Parrott
This article is courtesy of HomeLife.

Q. My husband and I work hard to share everything equally as husband
and wife. We try to split household chores and make sure if one of
us buys something new, the other one is next. We've been married two
years, though, and our fifty-fifty plan is no longer holding up. Any
suggestions?

A. Scorekeeping is for athletic contests, not marriages. Yet many
couples, deciding that marriage should ideally be a fifty-fifty
proposition, fall into the habit of tallying up each other's
contributions to the marriage. They split resources, weigh portions,
and count privileges. They believe that keeping track of who gets
what, does what, and has what will help them achieve a more balanced
partnership and a more fair share in the costs and benefits of
running a home.

But in reality, scorekeeping destroys emotional intimacy because
it's a subtle way of drawing marital battle lines. You may decide
that you want to be equal in all things, but you'll end up being
unhappy marital accountants, more concerned with being ripped off
than growing together. Instead of "sweet nothings," you'll hear
things like, "You got to choose last time," "It's only fair that
… ," and "I thought we had a deal." These are not the sounds of a
loving marriage. The longer this fifty-fifty game is played, the
more complex it gets as each of you discovers different expectations
and measures contributions by different standards.

Regardless of how it starts, scorekeeping in marriage isn't just a
division of labor; it's about power, a need for love and
appreciation, and other emotional issues.

When marriage is built on a fifty-fifty proposition, both partners
eventually feel they're being cheated of their presumed rights. It's
far better to give each other the benefit of the doubt when you can
and to talk openly about what you're feeling and needing. If your
husband is spending more money than you are, talk about it. There
may be a good reason.

And if there isn't, your discussion can serve as the impetus for
reining in the spending. The point is that you can build a happier
marriage by putting away your score cards and talking about your
feelings and needs.

Try these steps for breaking free from scorekeeping:

First, have a calm, frank discussion with your husband about your expectations and
disappointments. Talk honestly about the situations where you're
most tempted to keep score. Be clear about your feelings so that he
knows what matters most to you.

Then, release your desire to have your husband meet all your needs.
It's not possible. No person can meet all your needs, no matter how
strategic, compromising, or egalitarian. Ultimately, only God can
meet your needs.

Finally, work on submitting your needs to your husband instead of
looking out only for yourself. This takes effort, but it's the only
way to build a true partnership.

Only you can set the criteria for what's important in your marriage.
You may see other couples who measure everything in more-equal
shares, but don't let that influence your desire to work as one.

Drs. Les and Leslie Parrott are co-directors of the Center for
Relationship Development at Seattle Pacific University and the
authors of many best-selling books, including Saving Your Marriage
Before It Starts and Love Talk. Visit their Web site to find their
national speaking schedule and their online marriage assessment at
www.RealRelationships.com.